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Best Questions to Ask a First Date

By Melanie on April 19th, 2011

Online Dating Tips | Best Questions to Ask a First Date

There is no standard protocol to follow when it comes to first dates and you cannot go by a rule book when it comes to chemistry and conversation with the opposite sex. However, there are some basic questions that can be asked on a first date.

It is impossible to deny the fact that it is the first impression that will either open the door to your love life or close it. There is a lot of anticipation, anxiety, hope and of course the fear of being rejected. While it is essential not to lose your original personality, one should definitely keep the conversation light and at the same time ensure that it is geared towards getting to know the person. In other words, try being yourself without catching the person off-guard and making him or her uncomfortable. First dates are not rocket science, but they can be a little trickier than you think they can, considering the fact that there are no formulas involved.

You want to sound interested in him or her but not interrogative. Your conversation starters can include questions like:

• Were you nervous about meeting me?
• Do I match up to your impressions of me?
• Or questions that include complements like “You smell amazing what perfume are you wearing?”

Here are a few questions that might help you go through with the first date scenario in a smooth way. Remember to introduce these questions as and when appropriate, this is not a verbal questionnaire that you have to put your date through.

How was your day?

You cannot go wrong with this question. You can build several other points of conversation from the answer you get and let’s face it; it is indeed flattering to learn that you are interested in knowing how his or her day went. This is a good ice breaking question that will set the mood off for a pleasant first date experience.

Do you do this often (do you go on a lot of first dates)?

This is an excellent way of understanding what kind of relationship your date is looking at without having to ask the same in so many words.  A sense of humor thrown in along with this question will go a long way. You get to know if your date is looking for something fun or serious. Though the odds that you may not get a straight answer are very high, it is definitely worth giving it a shot!

Where do you spend most of your time?

This question can lead to other questions about friends and colleagues and you can learn a lot about your date here. There is a lot one can learn about a person by getting to know who he/she hangs out with.

However, to have a pleasant experience on your first date with someone, there are two things one should bear in mind. The chances that everyone is going to be a one hundred percent honest on their first date are very slim. In other words, prepare to be lied to, if you are going to ask 5^th or 6^th date questions on your very first date. Secondly, if you are asking your date a question, be ready to answer the same. In short, play fair and square when you are asking questions like:

What do you do when you are not at work?

The question might sound lame and boring, but there is no other way of finding out what your date’s interests are. What if you are the nocturnal party animal who likes to be a part of the social circle and he or she is the type who likes to throw in a movie DVD while gorging on some popcorn? Though opposites attract, it is better to know these things earlier.

Would you describe yourself as very career-oriented?

After discussing personal interests, this is a great follow up question to the one before. The next most important thing to your personal life is definitely your career. At least in today’s world it is! By throwing out this question you not only understand if your significant other is a go getter but how materialistic and focused he/she is. While money does not make the world go around, it is an important factor and you need to know a little about how your date balances work, personal life and family.

Tell me about your family?

The best way to put this question forward is to divulge a little information about your family. Knowing a little about your date’s background goes a long way. Some people can be very private about their families; so you don’t want to sound too intrusive. Throw in the question, when you know your date is comfortable enough to answer the same!

There are many more questions that one can ask a date. Favourite cuisine, travelling, books or movies! But these six are your headway and can spin off with other questions to help you understand and know the person!

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