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Online Dating Tips for Women

By Melanie on April 28th, 2011

Online dating is just as challenging as offline dating, although it is much more interesting and gives women seeking their special someone the benefit of searching anonymously from the comforts of their own home with the help of sophisticated online dating tools. However, finding Mr. Right online and holding on to him requires a bit of time and effort, and if women take the following tips into consideration, their search will become much easier and even fun.

Online First Impressions: Picture and Profile

First and foremost, if you want to find Mr. Right, your profile and your profile photo must be right. Post the latest close-up photo of you smiling warmly into the camera and create the rest of your profile as truthfully as possible. Simultaneously, keep all personal details out of it and make it as unique as possible. As far as possible, avoid saying that you are beautiful and intelligent in your profile. Your photo will say more than any words how attractive you are and the way you create your profile will show how intelligent you are. Above all, be specific about what you are looking for, otherwise you will attract the wrong type of men.

Set High, but Realistic Standards

Second, be selective. Sitting in the comforts of home, browsing through hundreds of profiles online, responding to emails and chat messages, and flirting online, you can choose a man at your own pace. Be selective, but also realistic. The most important thing is to find a man with whom you share a certain level of compatibility and chemistry, someone with whom you can spend the rest of your life with. So, do not insist on good looks alone and be as realistic as possible in your search. It is important to have a realistic view of attraction. Many women are searching for an underwear model, when they would be much more happy with a genuine, caring, honest and hardworking guy. This is not to say that looks don’t matter, but make sure you are looking for a complete package.

Take it Slow

Third, never meet anyone offline almost as soon as you have met them online. Although most of the people who register at online dating sites are honest people seeking relationships, there are quite a few freaks and people with criminal records and shady backgrounds online. Conduct background and criminal record checks on everybody you get interested in. Communicate with them via the online dating site’s email and instant messaging service. Avoid revealing private details till you feel really comfortable about the person. And even when you feel like going on a date with the man, call him up first to find out what he sounds like over the phone before actually meeting him face to face.

Look for Upfront and Honest Men

Fourth, study your man well before going on an offline date with him. If he does not answer your queries regarding his career, his background, his education, his childhood, and so on or makes contradictory statements, you must be on your guard. The man is probably not honest.

Do NOT Be Desparate

Fifth, do not appear over eager to respond to emails. Study the sender’s profile well and respond to emails only after 1 or 2 days. Never chase prospective suitors with emails, sit back and relax while men do the chasing. This, however, doesn’t mean that you should not initiate communication; you can and you should, but don’t appear too interested in any man.

Your First Date

You should take all the required precautions while meeting your potential partner for the first time. Inform friends and family members that you are going on a date and keep your mobile phone with you. Do not permit the man to pick you up at your place, but go alone. Select a public place, such as a coffee shop, for your first date. This will give you enough time to observe the person. If you don’t feel comfortable, you can leave after a cup of coffee; and if you find him interesting, you can either order another cup or suggest dinner.

If you are really interested in your first date, feel that this is Mr. Right, and want to keep him in your life, show him through your body language that you are serious about him. Relax, make eye contact, smile at him, and make him comfortable with light, amusing conversation. Avoid clenching your fists; instead, caress your locks or handbag or the rim of your glasses in a sensual and rhythmic manner to convey the message that you are interested. Also, lean toward your potential mate to show that he has your complete attention. You will know that you have succeeded when your potential mate starts mirroring your action.

However, do not tease him too much; otherwise, he will get the wrong ideas. You want to convey the message that you want him for a serious relationship, not for a one-night stand.

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